"She doesn't have a mother anyway"
"My neighbour celebrated her birthday yesterday. Just as well, because she doesn't have a mother anymore anyway. So why bother doing something for Mother's Day, right?"
I heard this today in an office setting. Somebody said these words about two children who have lost both their parents in the MH-17 plane crash last year. It's their first Mother's Day without their mother. At the office, everybody seemed to silently agree with the statement. Well, I don't agree. When you know what it's like not to have your mother around when you're young, you don't say things like that. You choose to celebrate the memory of your mother. Because she was your MOTHER. The only one you get in life, biologically. She gave you life. And all of a sudden you wouldn't want to commemorate the day that honours the person who gave you life, the most precious thing you have?
There are many ways to show that you care about people around you who have suffered a great loss. Can we make an agreement that the one above is not the way we go about things like that? Thank you.
What are your ideas about showing empathy for the bereaved on days like Mother's Day? I wrote an article about it a while ago. And I'd love to read your ideas.